In this very fast paced, social media obsessed world of ours, the examples of beauty that are often widely celebrated, or pushed to the forefront aren't always what we see when we look into the mirror, but more than that is the kind of beauty that really means more.
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We need to stop acting as though failure is a bad thing. It is necessary. Obviously, we gotta temper it with sense :) Even though we're hard pressed to find Nigerian/African entrepreneurs who share their stories of failure, they DO exist. Them aside...
This world can be a thief. We learn to fear so many things that end up robbing us of confidence that is hard to win back, experiences that can help us grow, and many more things that cost even more to get back; things we didn't even realize we lost.
So as hard as it may be (and it is hard, it's a constant battle for me) - take your place and ...
Are you ever just "over it?" I know I am sometimes. I just get to the point where I'm tired, frustrated, and don't understand why it just has to be so difficult!!
Well, apparently, if you're not feeling like that at some point, you're no challenging yourself, or you're not building something greater than just you. I don't know if I agree with that 100%, but the idea does have its merits!
I guess this post is just to say, for those of you who are at this point...
My friend Lola used this on me (yeah, you read that right: she used it on me, almost as a weapon :) ) once, and I never forgot it.
But more than a saying about romantic relationships, I also think about it in the terms of 'life fatigue' - even the things we love can get tiring IF everything isn't working together. Living and working in Nigeria, this can often...
Just keep working. Keep moving. Keep learning.
There have always, and will probably always be limits placed on you as a person because you are: a woman, a man, a father, a mother, visually/physically impaired, or because of your age, your looks, your size. You name it, there's someone somewhere ready to size you up and immediately
This has become one of my favorite quotes. I follow Semhar Araia on twitter, and this quote came at the right time when it came across my timeline. Semhar is an accomplished Eritrian-American, who is passionate about Diaspora affairs, especially developing and supporting African women leaders...
I don't know about you, but before anyone has had the chance to say "Oh, Lamide, you did this wrong," I've often already carried the biggest (metaphorical) stick and walloped myself with it.
Truth is, it's easier to be down on yourself and focus on the mistakes you've made. Personally, It's the things I tried and failed at that bug me the most, and the wrong choices I made that sometimes keep...
Be in your own corner, fight for yourself, and never forget to give yourself another chance.
Because life gets in the way, because people don't always tell us (or recognize) how vital we are to each other, we don't always know that whatever it is we bring to the table is something the next person may need to do his/her own bit at work, at home, or in the world.
Get your life. You're awesome.
Whether it's a lifestyle, material goods, or even personality traits, things we wish we had can make us feel like who we currently are isn't good enough. Especially online, we see snippets of people's lives and experiences and forget that it is literally just a moment in time that they chose to share. It's great to see people and what they've achieved as #goals, but that doesn't mean you don't have your own awesomeness bubbling under and ready to blow!
So this new week, try to dust off the debris of comparison and get yo' life! Switch off from certain outside influences if you have to, and find that fire. And if you have to burn one or two things, well, then do that too! Let me know how it goes :)
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