Is it me, or is anything Chimamanda Adichie says often misconstrued and wielded as an example of "oh ye badly behaved Nigerian feminists"? Especially when we’re on the Naija corner of any Social Media platform. I don't need any particular reason, but I thought it was a good time to dust off this draft and share it for a QOTD!
Not that we ever see her failures, or that she shares them with the public at large, but I feel like CNA is always imparting lessons, be they in fashion (have you seen her instagram? Too cool), in the art of VERY smart putdowns to those who dare to come for her stupidly, and in life.
Happy Monday, y'all. Everyone has been talking about this "never ending January" and I can't help but feel a twinge for the people who started it and didn't get to see its end.
A bit morbid, maybe, but a colleague passed away a few weeks ago and there have been accidents I've heard of involving people I know or know of, the killings happening in Benue state, here in Nigeria, terrorism and bomb blasts, shootings and all sorts of awful things going on around the world.
So death, whether we like it or not, is an ever present factor.
Are you holding grudges to your chest? Are you angry at someone or something? Welcome, join the rest of us 😂. But it is time for a new beginning, and what better time to begin than at the start of a new week (are we done with "New Year, New Me, yet?) right? Right.
I hate not being perfect. When people say being perfect is boring, I'm like "well let me try it first, because feeling like you're not getting things right is not fun either"
But in my moments of clarity, when frustration hasn't gotten the best of me, I get it.
There is nothing that is 100% right, or good, or fun, or lovely, 100% of the time. Not on this earth
As great as faith is in God, or Allah, or the higher being in whom you place your trust, you have to grind sometimes. To chase, to aspire, to work towards the dream.
It is rare to have EVERYTHING lined up for you. Even if you're lucky to be in the right place at the right time, that won't be your story ALL the time. So for those blessings to rain down, outline your thoughts and ideas, talk to the people who can help you, ASK FOR HELP and be accountable to someone, somewhere.
I don't know about you, but before anyone has had the chance to say "Oh, Lamide, you did this wrong," I've often already carried the biggest (metaphorical) stick and walloped myself with it.
Truth is, it's easier to be down on yourself and focus on the mistakes you've made. Personally, It's the things I tried and failed at that bug me the most, and the wrong choices I made that sometimes keep...
Be in your own corner, fight for yourself, and never forget to give yourself another chance.
Because life gets in the way, because people don't always tell us (or recognize) how vital we are to each other, we don't always know that whatever it is we bring to the table is something the next person may need to do his/her own bit at work, at home, or in the world.